Everybody in the whole free world is talking about Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries, I guess I would too. I am a Kardashian “fan” I guess but Kim is definitely my least fav. I am a Khloe type of girl. So I wasn’t that excited about the whole wedding. Hell the wedding special is still on my DVR because I haven’t watched it yet. But my main quick point is, 72 day marriage is what destroys the sanctity of marriage. People are so quick to say that homosexuals are the destroyers of the “sanctity of marriage”. But it is perfectly fine for two people who have no business getting married to do it and in front of the eyes of our entire nation and on some levels the world. The first same sex couple in New York state was Phyllis Siegal, 77 and Connie Kopelove, 85. The couple had been together many years and finally had the opportunity too legally be a married couple. Everyone should have the right to marriage. We as human beings have no right to decided who can and can’t be married. Love is a real thing and shouldn’t be taken lightly. I hope that one day we will live in a society where all love is accepted and respected. Then maybe we will have the “sanctity of marriage” again.
My other way less serious opinion of the Kim K wedding mess is I still want that headpiece. Seriously it was so sick and I am determined to wear something similar on our big day. I did read some good news that David’s Bridal is still coming out with dresses that are Kim K inspired so I am hoping to see that headpiece because I NEED it. YES need it! I just think I would totally look like a goddess.
And for real I can’t worry about her 72 day marriage. I know I am marrying for love and I am not playing around. I am getting married for life AND wearing that sick headpiece down the aisle. June 30, 2012……..Smooches!!!
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
|Steven's Reflection shot in Africa|
So sometimes talking with teens really provides a revelation and insight into something. I had one of those moments tonight. While driving a van full of boys home (which in its self could be a blog entry), we somehow got on the topic of Black kids at school. All of the boys were talking about the black kids and how they didn't like them. They said that the black kids were mean and would say stuff like, “Oh All Africans stink.” and all of these other things about them. I expressed how I couldn't believe that ALL the black kids would be like that. They said well no not ALL the black kids but most. And then I heard this stroke of genius from one very intelligent 16 year old, “It's because they don't know they are African too.” Genius right?!?! It is because they don't know they are African too. That phrase really made me think about a lot of things. Is that true? Do most of us AFRICAN-Americans not really consider that African part? Do we truly just see ourselves as American? Whenever I see someone African I can't help to to see the similarities. I see the facial structure, with wider noses and fuller lips. The coarse, thick hair that grows up not down. I see the skin color, yes I know there are at least a million different shades of brown but we are still brown none the less. Although our cultures have grown to be somewhat different but physically we are so similar. I was so shocked to think that so many people don't see themselves as African: and would be so rude and disrespectful to someone who looked just like them. Do these people see themselves simply as American. Clearly we are still not equal, even with a Black president. Racism is still alive and well throughout our nation. Do these people see themselves as Black Americans? But what is a Black American without African? It is a same that people forget that part of themselves and our history. Me, personally, I have always said that I consider myself “Black”. I still do but I can only speak for Brittney D. I don't consider myself African-American because well that title is reserved for Americans born in Africa. I still think Africa is a part of me and well in a way I am a part of Africa. I am looking forward to the day I get to go back to Africa, its one of the things I want most in life. Ultimately I think we are all the same. Even though we are spread throughout the world, Africa is still are home. So it doesn't matter if your people came from Africa to the US in 1649, 1999, or 2009 we still have some things in common. I would hope we would work together as brother and sister instead of tearing each other down. That is my hope to me its easy and pretty realistic. Now we just got to get the rest of US on board!!!! Until next time As-Salamu Alaykum!!!
|Steven & Kids. I just love this picture.|
Monday, October 31, 2011
I had a great weekend. The only bad part was it was entirely too short. But what weekend isn’t right?! On Friday night I went to the Homecoming Stepshow and After-party. I originally wasn’t going because I am poor and didn’t have anything to wear. I lucked up and found a great dress that I loved at Old Navy for $24.50. I thought that was a great price and reasoned with myself other places I could wear the dress. I picked up some cheap jewelry from Glitter. I am usually anti-Glitter because most of that crap is so cheap looking and ghettoish. (And yes I just used ghettoish like its a real word.) But I managed to find a very cute pair of earrings, a necklace, & a bracelet. And all that for $3.28 so it was a great deal. I wore the dress with a pair of leopard heels but later which into my knee-high suede boots. And last but not least I got an amazing, almost ridiculously over the top headband from Lane Bryant. I freaking loved it too!!
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
I kept thinking that one day I would just wake up and feel like a bride. I thought it would be like the bride fairy came and sprinkled wedding dust all over me. That moment never came; I never woke up covered in dust, or seen Tinkerbelle’s twin the Bride Fairy. It was weird though I thought, “this is the moment I have been waiting for” why am I not happy or enjoying this. Honestly, all I could think about was dollar signs. Whenever I thought about the wedding all I could see was the money. Realistic I didn’t think it was something I could afford and something I could afford wasn’t something I would want. But I decided to just fake it until I make it and get myself in bride mode. I went to Theknot.com (which isn’t a great place if you’re poor. That tangent will be coming in a future post), made a little wedding binder and DAMN IT I am going to be a bride.
I enlisted the help of one of my friends, Candace. Candy is pretty much the total opposite of me. She is getting married in May and has been a total bride’s bride since she got engaged. So I was hoping she was the wedding fairy or at least if I stood close enough to her I could get her wedding dust. She was my official date to my first couple of bridal shows.
Now I’m not sure what I expected from the bridal show but this was not really it. The show that took my bridal show virginity was sponsored by a local radio station and held in The Brown and Williamson Club at Papa John’s stadium. Once you entered the room there was tables set up and each vendor had their own “Booth”. A lot of the stations have contest that you can sign up to win stuff. And like I said before Candy being the bride’s bride, printed us up address labels so we didn’t have to write our name repeatedly for the drawings. I still haven’t won anything from these drawings but they are filling up my inbox every day. Anyway, I was underwhelmed for the most part. It was neat to see some of the different photographs. I love photos so seeing some of these shots were amazing. And possibly the best part FOOD SAMPLES!!! LOL There was quite a few yummy things. I liked trying to different caterers (although there was a couple I passed up on). We also had lots of fun taking pictures in the photo booth. I had a blast don’t get me wrong but I thought there would be more ideas and inspiration and less sales pitch. All in all I give this show about a C.
My second bridal show! Oh my word, it was like I died and went to bridal heaven. Seriously, bridal heaven is The Brown Hotel Bridal Experience. The best part was I even talked Steven into going. So we went to the bridal show as part of Friday date night. The Brown Hotel is a historic hotel here in Louisville. On the inside it was decorated beautiful. The tables had these amazing centerpieces done by different florist. These were some of the most over the top centerpieces I have ever seen. I can only imagine the cost. There were passed appetizers, food stations, and an open bar. (Steven didn’t eat anything, although I paid $15 for him to get in. I’m still a little upset.) There were models wearing different wedding dresses. There was a great photo booth. This one was so fun and they had different costumes. We had a blast. Steven actually said he would really like to have one for our wedding. Loved it!! I stopped by an invitation vendor table. The lady had the most beautiful invitations I had ever seen. She seemed like a very sweet girl and I loved her work. I ask a rough estimate on price of my favorite invitation and of course it’s $500 for 100 with no envelopes. This is when I learned I was a stationery snob! L We received an amazing bag at the end with lots of information from all the different vendors and really cool free samples. This was a great experience for me. I am super glad I went but at the same time it made me sad. I was sad because I realized as amazing as those things were, they were things I didn’t think I could ever have because of money. It just kind of made me feel bad about my situation and the possibilities of my wedding. So A- for experience; D for emotional breakdown after.
Looking back, I do think the bridal show circuit is/was good for me. It makes me think about my wedding and what my wants and needs are. I think it helped me get more excited about the wedding and getting it together. I am still torn because I don’t know how we are going to afford it really. But the bridal show is fun. There really are positives to it. I mean, I have to keep going until I win us something kick ass! I am going for a honeymoon. I am just trying to mental stay positive and kick my negative Nancy self to the side. And I think I can stop faking, because duh I’m a bride.
Next Stop: The Destination, RIGHT??
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Saturday, February 26, 2011
Let me tell you a little something about me. I am a bit of a worrier. Ok more than a bit I may have a worry problem. Trust me if there is something to worry about I will find it. It’s a gift and a curse. It makes me very compassionate but still I worry all the time. Needless, to say this already causing problems in one of the greatest times of my life……………………………………………………..Planning a wedding.
Steven and I have been together for almost seven years. We are college sweethearts. Seriously think stereotypical here, we meet all the requirements. We met in the residence hall, joined Greek letter organizations, involved in everything, and people usually referred to us in a pair. I told you TOTALLY stereotypical! J We are very happy together and I truly believe that God brought us together. (Ok shed a tear now. It’s the “AWWWWWWW” moment. ) We really are a great compliment to each other. I think that’s so important because we are Team Hunt-Kniffley for life.
Our engagement was a little less than perfect because of yours truly. Basically long story short, I ruined our engagement. So no, we don’t have a long romantic story. No, we don’t have a moment when we both cried because we love each other so much. Our story consists of me telling Steven twice that he couldn’t propose to me in a restaurant or our house. So after I cried because I had ruined the evening, he ended up giving me the ring in his car, after I cried yet again, (and just for the record these weren’t happy tears, these were I am a horrible person and ruined our engagement tears.) To be honest, I’m not even sure if Steven said, “Will you marry me?”
Things did get better after this not exactly memorable night. The next day (Halloween FYI! Because only cool kids get engaged on Halloween) we were very excited about the engagement and our future! The most amazing thing to me is the second you get engaged, people ask you when you are getting married. I wanted to say, “Ma’am I have been engaged for 15 minutes. Can I enjoy engagement please?” I was totally shocked. Aren’t people allowed to have an engagement period? We decided that we would just enjoy being engaged until at least the first of the year then start making decisions about the wedding.
Before we knew it, it was January 1, 2011 and the wedding planning has started. That is our background story in about 400 words. This blog is our trials, tribulations, experiences, advice, and etc. It’s our story of how we are going to hopefully, make the wedding of our wildest dreams happen. It should be interesting and I hope I don’t have a nervous breakdown (Refer to the worry paragraph J ) But I am trying to remember all you need is love!
Next Stop: The Bride has got to feel like a bride, right?! Fake it until you make it AKA the Bridal Show circuit.
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Hey Yall! Its been an extra long time. So much has gone on, so many things have changed so many things have stayed the same. My birthday March 9th I will be 26 which I am totally dreading but it is also Ash Wednesday. This year for lent I have decided to actually give up something and I am going to give up meat and me a vegetarian. Im sure I will have lots of trials and tribulations.
Also I got engaged so there will be some bride talk on the blog!
See you sooner than later!!
Also I got engaged so there will be some bride talk on the blog!
See you sooner than later!!